Angry's Blog of Doom (or idiocy....take your pick)

[inphared]

How much do you pay for your health insurance per mounth in the USA?

 

In Germany I pay 250 - 300€ per mounth and my Employer pays the same for me too.

 

It's 50% Employee and 50% Employer

 

so wierd how you guys have to pay for health insurance .. i get it for free

[inphared]

Since the 2003 Stanely cup finals- New Jersey v. Anaheim. Go Devils!

 

I feel sorry for your devils this year

[ReD.SkY]

Will women ever make sense? And if what will happen to the universe when they do?

 

Tell me Angry (or Momma), tell me!

[davidhammock200]

I have an old Xerox 8086 & would like to upgrade, what DFI mobo would be a good replacement.

 

I intend to keep the rest of my system as is.

 

Thanks :cat:

[ooztuncer]

I know it makes my wife soo happy but why should i clean the house???

[momma]

I feel sorry for your devils this year

 

They are actually picking it up now that Elias is back. Brodeaur got 2 shutouts last week and was named NHL Defensive player of the week, yay!

[momma]

I know it makes my wife soo happy but why should i clean the house???

 

Because its nice and she probably isn't the only one making the mess. Plus making your wife happy means life overall will be much better, right?

[Angry_Games]

Social bookmarking sites: useful, useless, good, bad, or fad?

My opinion on this is that it really depends on a few things....I don't think it is good or bad or useless, but some aspects of it can be.

 

For adults, I suppose it can be good (others share site links that normally you would never find on your own), or it can be bad (a lot of nasty or stupid site links that you would never find on your own lol).

 

Everything can be useless in the sense that it really doesn't benefit your life nor makes you rich nor happy nor more productive etc.

 

But then some things might be really good...if its a 'health' sort of social thing, then you might find some different ways of doing healthy things that you might never have thought of etc.

 

(you get the idea)

 

 

for kids though...it's kind of a mixed bag. It's always good for kids to be social, but from what I remember from when I was a kid, being social meant going outside or doing things with your friends that you met at school or from other local schools during Little League baseball etc.

 

Sure we played video games together too...that was social. But we didn't have the internet to meet friends from a thousand miles away...and honestly I don't really know what good an online friend 1,000+ miles away is going to do for a kid. Friends are good yes, but a friend that you won't get to meet 99% of the time until you are an adult (and lets face it, how many 'friends' from the internet have you ever met in your life? I've met about 20 and that's probably out of a good 1000+ or more that I've met on the net in all the years I have been on it).

 

And the more important fact when it comes to kids being online, is that there are some very bad people in our world (and in our society in America especially). Bad people, up until the internet, were really social outcasts for the most part and couldn't practice openly whatever perverted or disgusting lifestyles they lived. It was hard to troll or hunt for others that were interested in those lifestyles or werent interested but could be considered potential victims.

 

Like porno...its always been around, but with the internet, there's level upon level upon level of crazy stuff...and most of it is stuff that leaves you shaking your head wondering wtf these people are thinking or how were they raised that they would be into this stuff lol...well, sickos that dig kids are using the internet now, and we are seeing levels upon levels of just truly bad people, bad child porn rings, bad bad bad.

 

not that everyone is a bad bad person. Truthfully, I'm sure less than 1% of the people are bad bad types. But 1% of 300,000,000 Americans (and probably 2-3 billion humans on the earth that have access to the net) is still a big number, and I bet that with the internet being generally so anonymous, that there's more of those types around that are active than would be without the relative anonymous nature of the net.

 

ok so Angry is going all-out that people are bad, sickly, chickenhawks right? No, not really. I'm just very concerned with kids on the internet without supervision.

 

Not everyone is a . offender sicko child rapist. But some of them might be 19 year old losers trying to get into your 15 year old daughter's pants (and they might plot to kill you has happened more than a few times already lol).

 

Some dude might be telling your kid how great smokin weed is or telling them that the white race shouldn't have to live with other lower-races etc.

 

To me that is more scary than some Jeffery Dahmer type because Jeffery Dahmer types are pretty rare...but Billy the 22 year old dropout and his good ol' boy friends who fool around with guns and hate how their local goverment is persecuting them or their families and it's time for some payback...those types who are into cultish things, drugs, ., etc...those people are everywhere.

 

Small towns, big cities, they exist and I remember from being a kid that I was not always a happy citizen lol. Parents often deceive themselves that their kids are 'just fine' and 'very happy' when they are obviously so out of touch because of their own lives that they forget what it was like being a kid, especially a teenager, especially if your parents weren't rich you never had anything to classy lady about other than having too much money and not enough to spend it on.

 

And even those rich kids...they got bored easily and turned to drugs and . and jacking cars etc just to live life a little (or a lot lol).

 

Kids are easily influenced, even really smart and mature ones. Parents should take the time to really pay attention to their kids, and even ones that do will tell ya that it can be a struggle.

 

Add the internet into this where you can get free porno, free video games, free music, free singles/. meetings, along with the great book reviews, shopping sites, homework helpers, math tutor sites etc...

 

I've had customers that get 'special' ISP's that have all these web proxy blocks etc along with parental controls and such so they can let their kids on the computer unattended . I always try to convince them that that is the absolute worst thing you can do, and even go to their computer and within seconds bring up all manner of very disturbing and embarrassing sites that their stupid ISP can't or does't block....and their immediate answer is always 'well my kid doesn't go looking for that anyway and if he did he'd not because he figures our ISP blocks it'

 

*sigh*

 

anyway...for the record, momma and I don't have children, and we do not plan on having children. They are too much responsibility, and neither of us want that responsibility. Enough of you have kids of your own, so the human race will go on lol. But being responsible for a being that is going to grow up to be another human just like you (and kids tend to learn their parent's traits and behaviors and prejudices), and you have to feed and teach and shelter this thing for years and years and years and then even after you think you have done soooo much to make the child a good person with good values there's always the chance he'll grow up to be a criminal, or she'll be a drug addict having . with strangers for crack and heroin, or they'll grow up to hate anyone that is not their race, color, and/or religion.

 

That's just too much responsibility for me (and she says for her also). I admit it is selfish as we'd rather spend our time with each other since we are adults and we know that we can't always be together because of work, school, etc. and it won't scar us for life lol. Plus kids are expensive and while we don't live high-on-the-hog, we do have a decent little life (she doesn't have to work while going to college full-time) that will get better when she graduates (assuming she likes her job as much as I like mine).

 

 

Social sites for kids...I'm not real down with them. I don't think kids need social sites on the internet because they have much much much more active social lives than any adult other than movie stars and pro athletes.

 

Adults...I think they are decent, but like almost anything (a gun for example), they can be used for good, or bad, or to just waste time staring at lol

 

I doubt they are a fad though...communities in reality attract and grow from social gatherings and causes, and now we are seeing online communities growing in almost the exact same way. Early pioneers in America were grouped by interest really...so all the Quakers and Puritans were a group that all shared the same interest (their way of worshipping a particular religion). Settlers out west were the same...Christians, Mormons, gold miners, coal miners, railroad builders, etc.

 

haha

 

longest answer yet...another angry RANT

[Angry_Games]

Can ya get cable in the sticks in Idaho? How big of a city is Boise really? (I know not big like NYC/Philly) I don't mean in numbers of people which I could google for, I mean in feel? Why did you move to Idaho in the first place? Couldn't you have worked for DFI from anywhere? Do you really like Soviet hockey the best? If so, why?

 

hah we have cable in towns as small as 6,000 people. Amazing ain't it? DSL came first for some, but the cable companies have worked hard to bring broadband to most residents (and satellite is a good choice for those that live waaaaay out in the sticks and don't want to play online games lol).

 

Boise city limits sign says 187,000, but I imagine it is closer to about 200,000 or more, and Meridian, Caldwell, and Nampa have all grown I think to be in the top 5 in population, which gives us a metro area of what feels roughly like 500,000.

 

definitely feels and is smaller than Portland, Oregon, but is larger than Reno, NV. I really like it because it is still a small friendly town (Boise just started getting large only in the last 10-20 years....growing up in southern Idaho, Boise was our big city, but if you really wanted to go shopping or do anything, you went to Salt Lake City).

 

We both grew up in Idaho (southern Idaho near Nevada border) so we didn't have much choice lol. I moved to Florida for 12 years and then came back only long enough to see my mom and dad before going on to Portland. Unfortunately, 6 days after I came back, mom broke a hip and was diagnosed with bone cancer, and I stayed to take care of her. Right before she passed, I met Carly (momma heh...we met online at Yahoo! so my previous post about social sites is relavent again!), and we decided that after my mom passed on we'd move up to Boise so she could finish her last 2 years of college.

 

We liked it here and everything seemed to click so we are staying for now.

 

 

I could have worked for DFI from anywhere. I checked out the Oakland/San Fran area but it was waaaaaay too expensive for what my salary was....plus she would have to pay out-of-state tuition for at least 1 year so we stayed here.

 

 

 

(you must read this last answer in bad Russian accent...like Ivan Drago from Rocky5 or something)

 

 

Russian Hockey is greatest. No hockey is great like Russian Hockey. We dominate you for many Olympic medals. You are all loser teams. No respect for you.

 

We even dominate NHL teams. Stupid NHL teams. Think they are better than Soviet Hockey. They see wrong ha ha.

 

Soviet Hockey so good we maybe let up against American team in 1980. Bad mistake.

 

But then again...maybe we let them win yes? Maybe part of KGB plan (bad plan though but no one could say bad about KGB then).

 

Russian Hockey is team hockey. Not sjuperstar pansy hockey like everyone else. Russians always play as team. Team is most important. Without team, it is one player versus five players. With team, it is five players versus five players, much easier, especially with other teams not playing like real team.

 

Russian Hockey trains hard. Only goal is winning goal. Nothing else is important. Team trains, team plays, team wins, It is Russian Hockey!

[momma]

Russian Hockey is greatest. No hockey is great like Russian Hockey. We dominate you for many Olympic medals. You are all loser teams. No respect for you.

 

We even dominate NHL teams. Stupid NHL teams. Think they are better than Soviet Hockey. They see wrong ha ha.

 

Soviet Hockey so good we maybe let up against American team in 1980. Bad mistake.

 

But then again...maybe we let them win yes? Maybe part of KGB plan (bad plan though but no one could say bad about KGB then).

 

Russian Hockey is team hockey. Not sjuperstar pansy hockey like everyone else. Russians always play as team. Team is most important. Without team, it is one player versus five players. With team, it is five players versus five players, much easier, especially with other teams not playing like real team.

 

Russian Hockey trains hard. Only goal is winning goal. Nothing else is important. Team trains, team plays, team wins, It is Russian Hockey!

 

And in Russia, hockey plays you!

[KimTjik]

(you must read this last answer in bad Russian accent...like Ivan Drago from Rocky5 or something)

I got some help from my wife, who has russian roots, to get the right feeling. Ok, I have learnt to speak russian too, but it was nicer to hear it read out properly.

 

Impressive wording A_G!

 

Seriously: Krutov, Larionov, Makarov, Kasatonov och Fetisov played some of the greatest hockey ever. I suppose our friends from Canada especially remember Canada Cup 1987 when they did beat them. Nevertheless I wish Russia could come up with something like that once more. :sad:

[Angry_Games]

I gotta a question on love advice.

 

Me and my wife split in nov. After we did for about a month we hung out alot and it seemed like things we gonna work out. Well since new years that stopped and we barely speak. I saw her today and we talked a lil. I have been inviting her to my fav art museum for a while now and she finally told me why she wouldn't go. She say's she is afraid we would get back together. She says her heart says no but her brain says yes (kiinda confusing since it's normally the other way around). We are both seeing other people, but i know we both still feel for each other (been together almost 5.5 yrs. married for 2.5). I'm not trying to push her into a relationship or anything. I'm just trying to build a good friendship (something we had lost while we were still together) and maybe pursue things further later. A big thing i believe she is scared of is that i havent changed. (i think she believes i have, but she is upset because she think's its for my new g/f) I know we shouldn't try to be friends if we are not over each other, but it's hard to be without someone who you have loved and been with for so long. And if you could see the look in her eyes (which is hard for me to do since she almost refuses to look me in the eye's because she says it makes her want to kiss me) and just hear how she talks to me and says she misses me and things.

 

I would really appreciate and advice either of you can give on the subject.

 

 

hrmm...a serious question

 

 

I've been through something similar. You split up because she isn't happy (and she's probably not happy with something you are doing...that is how it normally goes). You both love each other amazingly but it always feels like there is something that is missing, or some looming feeling of dread...no matter how tiny, you always feel it (well, once you have split up...sometimes we are blinded by a breakup and we say we never saw it coming...but I think we all see it coming we just pretend it was a shock).

 

I really really loved a woman, and she loved me. We were together off and on in a very torrid, stormy relationship for more than 6 years. She's one of those relationships that even today, 12+ years after we first met, and 6+ years after we had a final split, I still have a lot of feelings for. I still feel that fire that was always in me for her (there's a couple of women I've been with that I still feel that fire for when I think of them).

 

But while I feel it, I don't feel it as it is something that I have to have, that I have to pursue. Plus I also know that it is something that just never worked out. While it was great, it was fantastic, but when it was bad, it was bad, and in the end, we aren't together anymore, so it must have been bad or we'd still be together. (not bad as in terrible...but just in the fact that it just wasn't to be forever).

 

It's a tough thing to let go and move on. You don't have to let go all they, cut any arms off etc...unless it was just soooo bad like you were all drugged up and robbing pharmacies and turning tricks to make money etc lol.

 

But you have to let go enough to realize that, like you say, you can't force anyone, and you don't want to force anyone. Even if you do, you don't because the other person in your life has to want and accept just as much as you do, and if you force them, trick them, badger them, or never stfu and talk them back into it, it just isn't going to work.

 

I went through that myself, and when a woman says she isn't sure, or her heart or her head say one thing blah blah blah...then to me, thats a big red flag that I should step aside and keep walking the path. It's hard when you know someone so well, and have been with them for years, but it's harder to keep handing out pieces of your heart to someone who really isn't sure if your heart is what they want.

 

It is also hard because she maybe really doesn't know wtf she does want. And in that time, she'll sleep with you as well as maybe a guy or three or whatever trying to figure out what it is she wants. The sleeping with other guys is natural, and as long as you both realize you are NOT together, you only got two choices and that is 1. accept that she's free to do such and you accept it also when you sleep with her or 2. don't accept it and close her out of your life or just don't sleep with her until you two are for sure back together exclusively.

 

Its stuff like that that makes it so...confusing. Not just for you, but I'm sure her too.

 

But now take into account what else you have going on (besides longing for her to come back lol). You are seeing someone. This someone may or may not be better than what you just got away from. You might have to see a lot of different someones to find a someone who can take your . and put up with you and you right back at them.

 

You also need to think about yourself. Sure it is good to have someone beside you, sleeping next to you, sharing with you your lives together. But it is very good to take a break when given the chance (whether you wanted a break or not lol), and see what you have been missing for a while. Not necessarily other women, but other aspects of being single. Instead of focusing your life on someone else, are you now doing some of the things you wanted to do, or used to do, but stopped doing or never tried while you were married?

 

And maybe she wanted you to change....but you didn't want to (or couldn't because who you are is who you are that is impossible to change and still remain happy/sane). And now you are with someone else, or just on your own (you can pretty much expect that the change is because you aren't with her anymore...it almost never has anything to do with who you are with after her). This is bad for her because she either thinks (wrongly usually) that you changed for another woman but wouldn't change for her, or worse, that you've changed BECAUSE you are not with her (smart, unselfish women will instantly recognize this)...and that being with her made you the way you were...it isn't the new girl you are with, it was her and how she made you react to her.

 

Women (and men on the opposite side also) see us for what we are before we get together. That is what makes us attractive to them. Yet after so much time together, a lot of people realize that there are other facets of someone that they really don't like that have crept through, or that they knew about from the beginning but the excitement made you overlook those things. And/Or there's real change when we are together with someone.

 

Take your 'bad' friend for example...you know, the one you had that your mom or dad told you you COULD NEVER hang out with because he smoked cigs or weed or was a bad influence even though he might have been just about your bestest friend in the world? Mom and dad saw you for yourself every day. They also saw how you acted when you hung around this bad friend...doing things you never did when you were not around this friend.

 

Relationships are the same way. You get together with someone and you change (both of you do). Your habits and behavoirs are modified by how you react to the person you are with. When you are no longer with them, most of the time the 'damage' (*hehe*) is not permanent, and you begin to go back to being your old self...your ex is probably seeing your 'old' self, which is to say, she sees the person she originally fell for, and she likes it all over again...but maybe her heart is saying 'hey dumbass we been through all this and I wasn't happy with him in 5+ years why would I be dumb enough to hurt us both any more?'

 

Or maybe she's just what I think of as damn typical woman who can't make up her mind lol. (momma will agree for the most part about women).

 

 

The only real advice is advice that is my personal opinion/choice...and that is to let her make up her mind on her own without any input from you.

 

and you, in the meantime, just do whatever you want to do. If you are seeing someone and you like them, continue seeing them. Or see new people. Or don't see anyone. Keep playing baskteball at the rec league, or working on dirtbikes with your buddies on weekends before the big poker games, or whatever. Do for YOU.

 

If she comes around, then she comes around. But if you've attached yourself to another woman, you are going to be in the same position she was in (and be aware that just the fact that you are attached to another woman can be enough to sway your ex into really wanting you...women have this ugly defect where they can't stand 'their man' to be with any other woman...its the same ugly defect that us men have...we just try to start bar brawls while women are much sneakier...they try to weasel their way back between you and your new woman).

 

I was in same position with my ex a few times when I met new women. I left those new women almost every time to try once more to be with her (hence my preaching against this sort of thing lol). When i met Carly though, again we went through a period where the ex saw how happy I was, and again wanted to try again....but there's something about Carly that made me realize that as much as I loved the ex, and as stormy and torrid and steamy as that relationship was, it wasn't ever going to be as great as the one I was now having with Carly.

 

I really loved the ex. But it always felt like forcing a piece of puzzle into the bigger jigsaw puzzle when it really wasn't the right piece...it fit you know, after fiddling and forcing it, and it looked almost right...but later I would find the exact piece that fit into my puzzle...it looked perfect, it fit perfect, it was the RIGHT piece.

 

As much as I wanted that first piece to fit in, it just wasn't meant to be. My puzzle would have always looked almost-finished...with one piece missing because that piece was forced into a spot it didn't belong, making other pieces around it not look right also.

 

With Carly, all the pieces of the puzzle fit perfect, and as far as I am concerned, the puzzle is finished and it can now be enjoyed and admired (by us heh).

 

Or, as I once told her, she's my "matched stick of memory". (which made her cry by the way, which is really cool in the sense that she understands enough about computers to know how important matched sticks of memory are, which is cool on a whole different level of "holy smacks how cool is it that my chick digs computer nerds and nerdy computer lingo!")

 

So my advice...live your life. Maybe the one you are seeing now is your matched stick of memory or the correct piece of your puzzle. Maybe not, and maybe you have to keep trying. Maybe your ex really is...but if she don't feel it, and if you HONESTLY INSIDE don't feel it, then it probably isn't to be.

 

Breaking up and moving on is a killer. It hurts like nothing in the world can hurt because it is not physical pain, it is emotional pain and it never really goes away (years later it will still hurt to think about it I can guarantee it). But it is not the end of the world, and in fact it might be the best thing that ever happened to you.

 

Hard to see it that way I am sure, and I would have told someone to F off if they said that to me during my breaking up period lol. But now, after finding Carly, I realize that it is true, and I am damn glad I moved on, even though it always hurt because I always thought that my ex was the only one for me ever, that we were 'soulmates'.

 

Funny cuz my soulmate is the one I am with now, who knocks over my guitars and cooks these crazy poisonous things and falls down without warning and does all kinds of crazy embarrassing things hahahahahaha.