As someone who also feels a long term relationship isn't for him and has felt many of the same frustrations I have refined my stance on many things.
When it comes to friends you can't always expect them to be there for you. It's just not going to happen. They are going to let you down. Just like you are going to let them down. On a basic level, ya you are using each other ...even if its just to stamp out your current boredom. But what's wrong with that? If both of you gain more than you lose and your friend makes you happy, tell me how/why it really truly honestly matters that you used each other to be happy?
There is absolutely no way you can live without "using" someone/thing. Even if you move out in the wild and become a hermit in the woods, you would still be using mother nature to suit your needs. "No man is an island." Found that link when googling to see who the quote belonged to.
The goal shouldn't be to find someone who won't use you, but to find someone who complements (not praise, but balances) you. For example, I have a friend in VA who felt the same way as you and she felt she had no "friends", everyone is a "colleague" that can't be trusted. Even though I no longer live in D.C. we're still friends and share information only friends would share. Another example... I have a good friend who moved in from Cali to use us for training. He's trained in martial arts for many years and is quite adept but to take it to the next level he felt he needs to train with us - he says it all the time that is why he moved out here. He's anti-social in many ways (he's never even been on a date) so in your definition a huge red flag to stay away from. I call him a good friend because we share a lot of the same interests, a lot of the same view points on life and we flat out just get along. It's a symbiotic relationship, not a parasitic one.
It's not easy finding a true friend. I know a lot of people but would only call about 4-5 friends. There are people I hang out with more so than my friends but it doesn't mean I would say they're my friend. Out loud I will call them a friend because that is social etiquette but I wouldn't put the same trust in them I would a friend or go to the same lengths that I would for a friend. It's always best to keep people at a distance but you should never be closed off. I really like the Yin Yang philosophy. You cannot have good without bad. You can't always be soft or always hard. There has to be a balance. If you think of friendships/relationships as Take only, sure they are gonna fail. Some days it may feel like you are always giving, but if you found a true friendship some days it may feel you are the one doing all the taking. When it feels balanced out you probably found yourself a true no kidding friend - hang onto them!
thats all nice and stuff but if all 5 ''true friends'' abandon you, you see things differently,
experience in this kind of thing is the key here and in my case it was nothing special to begin with.
i had a friend who i knew 15 years and were really close, and nothing could stand in our way but once i move 50km (35~miles which is nothing) from home because i was going to live on my own they didnt contact me on how i was doing or anything and then eventually never hear from them again, it makes you see things differently.
this was just 1 out of 5 friends who did this to me and well, that changes alot on who you are and who you are going to trust or not.
hell even my father did this to me and it makes you a different person if you have experience alot on a short amount of time.
thats just how it is and i base my view on things based on my experience, like everyone else does.
mine was more negative then others but then you can see how people truly are, if you dont want to see it, thats good for you, but the harder you will fall once that times comes that someone betrayes you, it will happen, you only dont know when that will be. but when it is that time, you will realise that my view on life and people isnt all that bad and that in the end i was right on how to view people for who they really are.
Tell me something bud, if i pick up a crate of eggs at the store and find a few cracked ones in it. Do i assume that the others are going to crack the second i close my eyes, or do i recognize that stuff happens and discount those few broken eggs. Same way with people, i meet a few jerks, should i automatically assume that everyone is a jerk? And when you think of the size of the egg crate in question(the world) even a few hundred bad eggs is not a fair representation of the crate-full.
Maybe an example that would hit closer to home, your a graphic designer of some sort ain't you? What if i went through all the work you ever did and found the worst piece of junk you ever made, and then advertised for you with it, billed it as your portfolio piece or whatever. That would give a real bad impression huh? Even though we both knew you could do a lot better, but unfortunately all those people who i showed the piece to would come away thinking that you were a worthless artist. Same way with people, just cause you seem to meet all uncaring jerks doesn't mean that the human race as a whole is made up of uncaring jerks.
Oh and on 3 ^ even if you don't plan on getting kids you can't make me believe you don't ever want to 'get some'. lol