i made a pic. of the things i ment
at the top u can see 2 clamps male/female
below u can see male fits female
these clamps fit the normal molux connector
there is a little anchor which keeps it in place
and u can buy them at any carparts shop or electra shop
there is also a special tool like a tube to unhook the clamps
and get it out of the molux without damageing